Friday, December 19, 2008

Romance, oh romance, where for art thou hiding?

Now Playing : "Skylark" - Monica Mancini



First, click on the link above and read the article. Then scoot back here.

I've always enjoyed watching romantic comedies. In fact, on my list of favorite movies, You've Got Mail scores big. I especially loved the dialogue and at that time, the thrill of meeting someone through the internet was intriguing.

Heh, see where that got me *wink*.

I think that romance as a whole, is pretty subjective. After reading the article, I couldn't help but find myself acknowledging that some of what Hollywood wants to project as being "romantic" has shaped my definition of what's romantic.

Yes, I want to be slow dancing on a dock or on a deserted beach on a quiet night under the bright full moon. Surprise candlelight dinners sound good too. The guy showing up unexpectedly anywhere I am at knowing I'd be ecstatic he did. Midnight walks in the park. Snowball fights. Smooching in front of a fireplace. Being cheeky in a dark cinema.

Heh. I got carried away.

But seriously, how many of the above have not appeared in movies? I tried to think really hard of something that I'd consider romantic that hasn't yet appeared in any movie. I failed. 

Up until me being with Phil, I've been sporadically in a few relationships--none of which felt serious or important enough for me to be thinking of romantic situations which I'd like to happen. I suppose it was just as well that none of them were very romantic at all either. 

Being in a relationship with Phil has taught me that you can't expect the other person to be romantic the way you want them to be. Of course you could ask, but what's the fun in that? I've learned that all the small (or big) things your loved one does with/for you which makes you smile are what makes him/her romantic and that's what Hollywood can't tell you. If this can't shape your own personal definition of romance, then truly, rom-com movies have indeed ruined your love life.

That being said, rom-com movies aren't the only culprits. Ever listened to a song and cringed at how cheesy the lyrics are? There is only one song in mind which takes the cake for this.

And after you watch it, I don't even need to explain myself. 

Then again, nearly all of their songs are pretty unrealistic, though it's nice to dream ;)


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